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I went into a ...
Running game on 18-21 year olds as a 30 year old?
I went into a younger dance club last week for the 1st time in years. I generally hang at sit down bars with a lot of mid-20's, but I have been dating a 20 year old recently on the side that I got introduced to. That opened my eyes up to the potential to date young girls that I thought had passed me by. While she defiantly has some reservations about my age (when she found out) it hasn't really slowed us down.
Anyway. Looking for guys with experience because I want to expand my options. The place I ended up at was fun & also refreshing after the borring bars for years I have been going to. I actually felt more confident than I normally do as well, because I felt like I was surrounded by clueless kids & really didn't care what they thought, which was empowering itself.
I ran some game & the difference I noticed was several of my targets seemed very intimidated & shy. Those didn't really go anywhere, but they all smiled & giggled after I left & kept looking at me, & a couple others were certainly interested although no closes.
All seemed to be trying to size me up I really think my age. I can pass for 25 pretty easy, but my best buddy was with me & is a little older & looks more his age in his early 30's so I think this is much of the reason for the sizing up as it was just the 2 of us & easier to see me as older at that point.
My question is it better to down play the age in this situation? Should I try to go to these places & leave the others my age home? I'm headed back this weekend. My buddy is coming but luckly another hot 20 year old babe we befriended is coming with us. She will easily be one of the hotest girls in there. I'm anxious to see how much the social proof in this setting. When we take her to the mid-20 something sit down bars we defintly get noticed, but I think some of the women there see us as either users or as WTF are they friends with a underage girl that can't even drink.
It's something I do all day long.. If you have strong inner game no one elses thoughts matter and your just pursuing what you want. Take your shots whenever you see something you like, and rejection is meaningless and the world is yours. I'll be gaming young b1tches til I die.
Sheesh!I will never understand this thought process.... but I am 44, and havn't been out with ONE chick over 26 in 3 yrs... most of them are 22-23. believe me bro, they don't care unless YOU act like it"s a problem going into it- i'm talikn a new one every time I go out. Please.. do yourself a favor.... just ACT like this is the norm...and believe it... and how she is lucky to finally go out(or in) with a mature person finally..... and age won't come up until after you got what you want. works like a charm.
Don't focus on "social proof" so much, its not a magic pill.. I don't give that nearly as much credit as people profess it to be. if you don't know how to utilize it to your advantage it is useless. I have one of the hottest friends i go out with, I.E. guys slobbering on themselves , girls hating her immediatly, guys suddenly hovering. most girls will stay away if she is not ultra friendly and not too busy eating up all the attention... to help you. unless she is a willing participant in your gaming, she will prove to be useless, and you won't very likely even meet any girls... especially a hot one. that social proof theory only works if they are more of a pivot.. highly unlikley if you recently befriended her.. at that stage they are usually thinking everybody wants her.. including you. this can easily make you confused about the whole social proof theory, when you see it isn't magical like most guys think it's supposed to be.
better social proof is YOU being socially adept. learn to be able to think like a chick, and chicks will like the way you think and you come off as VERY CHICK friendly , which of course is very appealing to chicks. chicks dig a guy that "gets it"... thats a whole other topic in itself.!
hope this clears it up a bit before you get your expectations too high.
be your own social proof.. now THAT is like magic!
Originally Posted by PUAdave