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    She didn't respond to my last email - What might I do?

    I met her at a speed dating event a couple of weeks ago, and it was on right from the start. I don't have her phone number, but I have her email. We went out for coffee last Sunday and had a great time. In just about every email she said something like "I'd love to meet you, just tell me when and where and I'll be there." Total compliance.

    On Tuesday I asked her if she wanted to meet on Thursday (Valentine's Day), and she said she had plans. I told her I was free today (Sunday), and she said it was strike two, but some night on the following week was good for her. I replied "OK, help me out here. I'm going to ask you out for some night next week. Clue me in on which one it should be."

    I haven't heard back.

    Here's my question: How long should I wait to email her again? I don't want to Try Hard, and I'm afraid I've given away some of my power just by asking her what night I should ask her out on. What would you do in this situation?

    FWIW, I'd rate her at about a 6.



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    Dude,
    You asked for help,i wouldnt of done that.
    To be honest it seems like she can take it or leave it.Your a option but your not a main player.

    Also why did you ask her out on valentines day?If you just met you shouldnt of done that.
    I would think you'd be busy on valentines day with another hottie.

    Dont email her,see what happens its needy.
    This is all i have to say right now.

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    Yeah, it seems like there was a huge power shift right at that moment. I'm not sure what I was thinking, asking her out on Valentine's Day, although I just referred to it as Thursday. I guess I got a little Try Hard.

    She finally emailed me back to say that she's been seeing someone on and off for a couple of months, and that it is now on. Oh well. On to my next options.

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    Have you tried Match .com.. ?
    Target rich... to say the least.. $30/ month... cheap
    "Act surprised...Show concern...Deny...Deny...Deny".

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    I tried it for a month and had absolutely no luck with it. I just cancelled it a couple of days ago. I've had better luck with matchdoctor, which is free, and hurrydate, which must be paid for, but I managed to get 2 free months from. There is a funny story that I got from match, however. I'll post it to both amuse and educate. This was the only response I got from one of my emails.

    I wrote:

    I'm not great at writing messages to complete strangers but here goes. I read your profile and found it intriguing. Maybe it was your question about learning something new every day. My life wouldn't be complete if I didn't. I want to know if there is more to you than your good looks, if you're also smart, funny, and nice.

    I'm betting that you've already gotten 45821 messages from guys that write novels in their first response to you. If that's what you get then this message is refreshing.

    I'm not good at talking about myself, but I'm 6'1", I love to work out, I have my life together, and I love to make people laugh. If you don't like to laugh, then we are so broken up.

    In the worst case you might make a good friend, so let's meet up for a a tasty beverage and some stimulating conversation...
    She wrote back, telling me what some other guy wrote to her:

    I'm not that good at writing emails to strangers but bear with me. Your profile was sent to me as a match and there was something about it that caught my eye. Maybe it was what you said about "U would like to meet somebody that is not scared to feel"...

    I have a feeling that there's more to you than your looks but lets see if you're nice, interesting and attractive as you are in the photos

    I'm willing to bet you that you gotten over 600 or more emails so far from guys saying something like: Hi, my name Mike and I like long walks on the beach, and cuddling and having wine.

    If that's what youíre used to then this email is refreshing.
    I'm not the one to talk about myself too much but I'm 37, in very good shape, attractive, mature, like to be funny, and have a great time!

    SO if you don't like to laugh and having a good time then we're in trouble. In the worst case, you might make a cool friend. So letís go get together for a Coffee / drink sometime...Email me.

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    Strange response that last email, it seems like a somewhat auto-generated reply, I'd write it off as a scammer trying to get a nibble or something. Reading your message you sent was interesting, you should check out some of the threads in this forum on online game; for starters you opened with an apology, not a strong way to open. I could make other points about your opening message but the real point of your thread was about this woman who wasn't responding to your email. If she's just a 6 anyway, then move on and forget about it. You probably already blew it with her, but there are plenty more fish out there so don't let it bug you.

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    It doesn't bug me, she was kind of fun but no great loss.

    Yes, I need to rewrite my email, there are some problems with it. (I did get a response yesterday, though.) But no, the other guy's email is not a scam. We just used the same source template, one that probably a couple thousand other guys are using as well. (From this product.) With it came the caveat that it should be changed up enough so that not every one of those thousands of guys are all sending the same exact email, as eventually what will happen is what just did.

    Two of us permanently lost the same great girl.

    But dang, it was funny.

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    I would've wrote back the one who sent the reply, and just give her a "OMG you found me out!" type of email. A little bit of being self-depreciating, admitting that you know it wasn't original, but you're trying it out because one of your friends could attest to it, he met a really cool woman and he's happy with how things turned out.

    The one who kept putting you off, you need to establish that your time is valuable. You make it sound like you have all the time in the world.

    It's just a different version of the personals, and there's a lot of dating advice out there (as well as searching on text and online game here) that will make your profile a lot more effective.

    You permanently both lost the same great girl? What do you know about her to say that? I would write her back but with a sense of humor about the whole thing. She may be a great girl or comes with issues bigger than National Geo.

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    I recommend:

    Go out of your house!

    When i was in the mailing game I was mailing enough girls so when one of them stop responding i would not notice.

    Asking out a new girl on velentines? dlv

    "im not good at writing messages", "im not good talking about ...."

    DLV Bigtime

    In afc land every mail looks alike.

    I think you should concentrate for now on your self appreciation, and start gaming as a game, thats why i'ts important to know its a game, you should relax.

    Experiment, experiment just to see what happens. Think of girls as paint. You put them in your palette and mix them with your canvas just for the fun of it.

    Copy and paste the presentation on neil straus myspace.

    Good Luck.

    Probably tell her that you read that response in a magazine, make it an interesting magazine and you email the same response to all girls just to see who catches.

    X

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    Quote Originally Posted by Superxavier View Post
    I recommend:

    Go out of your house!
    Oh yeah, I understand, and I'm doing that. Make no mistake, this particular girl was pretty inconsequential to me, I just wanted to figure out what I could have done better.

    This morning I ran the ballsiest opener I've ever tried (wroked great, too!), speed dating tomorrow followed by a date, another date Monday, then speed dating again Wednesday. I have to go out to the store a little later, so I might try the ballsy opener a couple more times.

    I'm gaming it.

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