Dug this up to post an update and maybe get some feedback. So S and I did not get happy married ever after. In fact, S started ignoring me after a while. It stung for about a week, but then I got over it. I met someone else within a couple months and dated him until now (we broke up about a month ago).
S had been flirting but in a friendly way the whole time - nothing over-the-top until just a few days ago. During a party last week, he started introducing me to everyone as his girlfriend (kind of lame / cheesy of him, but OK, I am seeing this as an IOI) and teasing me about how I "pose" by the bar and that I am so "high maintainence." Everyone (our co-workers / friends) still thinks something is up with us. Party lasted for a while and then there was an after party - more flirting and teasing. I demanded that he get me water just the way I wanted and I pulled his collar to get him near me when I wanted. I demanded that he kiss my forehead but won't let him kiss me on the mouth. And he had no choice but to oblige. ;p Ahh...I love being so demanding / teasing! At the party, S's friend (J) told me that S really likes me and cares about me and that we should go out and talk things over. J said that S is a great guy and very serious / career-minded and a great catch. S turned to me and said "Yea, we never dated did we?" And I said "Nope, we never did." J said that we should talk about our feelings and I said to J that S never showed that much interest or seemed serious enough to ask me out on a proper date so I never bothered to pay attention and never developed feelings. J appeared shocked and said "You have no feelings?!" Me: "Nope." Of course the two of them teased me about being so old fashioned and stuff - but w/e - I am old fashioned and it works for me. Toward the end of the night, S helped me with my coat (which I thought was so sweet and told him so) and then obviously he wanted to do more physical stuff, but I just hugged him and left. He texted me when I got home and said we should go out over the weekend. I had plans so I said I am busy this weekend but can do later in the week or next weekend. He never responded to that.
I think I really like S as a friend, but his lack of stepping up makes me lose interest. He also seems a bit immature... Right now I know he likes me, and I like him and his company, but I am not falling for him... I think he's been with easy girls (no offense to him or those girls) but I am definitely not so easy and as much as I'd like to see him step it up, I am not sure if he can or will...
I guess it helps that I have a few other options....a couple guys who want to take me out - one of whom I actually like and got along with pretty well - the other is just sort of an option. Also, a couple other guys who seem interested but things have not progressed. I guess I really wished things with S had worked out - I think it's really nice to have someone whom I am so comfortable with because we've been friends for so long, but I just don't know if S will step up. And I don't know if J said all those things about S to me to help S get laid or whether he said because S actually really has feelings. Thoughts? Can I help S step up or is that all up to him?