High Interest to No Chemistry on her part.

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  1. High Interest to No Chemistry on her part.

    Hi everyone. This is my first post and I'm just curious on thoughts to this.

    Ok so this girl messages me on POF we quickly exchange numbers, start texting, she shows high signs of interest and invites me over to her place the next day.

    I drop by, we chat for a good hour and 1/2 and I can tell her interest level was up and kept getting higher. She'd get close, tell me I'm very confident, have a great sense of humor, even asks if girls are constantly throwing themselves at me because she wouldn't be surprised.

    So that leads to us kissing, and it turned into a make out session with groping from the two of us, she even gets on top of me and starts to grind. At that point I had to get going because I had prior engagements (which she knew about in advance) so I leave thinking it went well.

    Following day she texts me this "hey so I should be honest. The chemistry just wasn't there for me. But it was great meeting you. Good luck"

    Only thing I can think of is maybe I was too aggressive with her physically that sent a signal I was only looking for a "hook up"

    Thoughts?



  2. #2

    Shoulda hit it!

    This happened to a friend of mine, it could be she got upset cause you didnt stay and hit it. Its possible even though you told her you had some place else to be, she felt rejected...just a guess though brotha

  3. #3

    i made this mistake few times, she was basically ready and u shoulda sealed the deal right there. Since u killed her buzz and took off she got upset, u basically missed your chance with her. Its not that u didnt have chemistry but u basically poured cold water on her by doing that.

  4. Yes! Should have hit it. A mistake i will never do again but you live and learn. This happened to me recently, on my first date with a girl i wanted very badly for a long time, she invited herself back to my place which we did, and then later that night she took me into her house and her room, both times we fooled around but i didnt hit it! LOL.

    After that night everything went back to being plutonic. All i wanted was a second date :/

    I concluded she saw me as unmanly not leading in the bedroom, leading to her dissapointment, and also she was a little embarrassed. A week later she was back with her ex much to my chagrin.

    Mind you i still see her now and the attraction is gone, funny how things go!

  5. #5

    Maybe there's another guy? We all know online dating is a womans world.

  6. Quote Originally Posted by Pacino420 View Post
    i made this mistake few times, she was basically ready and u shoulda sealed the deal right there. Since u killed her buzz and took off she got upset, u basically missed your chance with her. Its not that u didnt have chemistry but u basically poured cold water on her by doing that.
    Quote Originally Posted by bodyczech View Post
    Yes! Should have hit it.

    ...she invited herself back to my place which we did, and then later that night she took me into her house and her room, both times we fooled around but i didnt hit it! LOL.

    After that night everything went back to being plutonic. All i wanted was a second date :/

    I concluded she saw me as unmanly not leading in the bedroom, leading to her dissapointment, and also she was a little embarrassed. A week later she was back with her ex much to my chagrin.
    What these dudes said! Lol, I probably would've done what you did too, just to seem respectful, especially if I wanted her as my gf....but I'm afc like that and have a shit load to learn that way.

    Take this as a learning experience and next time, tap that shit!

  7. #7

    Quote Originally Posted by Pacino420 View Post
    i made this mistake few times, she was basically ready and u shoulda sealed the deal right there. Since u killed her buzz and took off she got upset, u basically missed your chance with her. Its not that u didnt have chemistry but u basically poured cold water on her by doing that.
    yep, this.

    You communicated that you pretty much didn't understand her desires/sexuality , and for her it was easier to just move on to the next Fish on the net!

    hit it or quit it

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