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    Im early 30 and Im into early 20 girls, advices?

    Hi there,

    I was wondering if someone is in a similar situation to mine. For some "magic" reason, a few years ago (around 26 years old, now I am 31) some really attractive young girls started to show interest on me, from strong IOI's to hitting on me, so that drove me to be interested in them. This doesnt happen very often but it happens from time to time in a regular basis. My problem is, for some reason they get interested in me for my appearence, but they project in me a "cool guy" Im not. They expect me to have lives like they do, they are parting all the time, with a lot of friends, going to this private party, that private party, etc. and I wouldnt mind to have a life like that at all, but I just dont have it, the friends of my age are married, I have a few friends 5 years younger than me but they arent into early 20 girls either, so I cant get into a social circle like the one I would need to be an interesting guy for these girls, and as soon as they find how "interesting" I am, they lose interest in me, usually that lasts around a week.

    Anyone knows what I mean or lived some similar experience? If so, and if you have any tips to give me, I would really appreciate it, the pull/push I get from them it's really frustrating.



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    Im going to be 30 in April bro.... I would see if I could find some wings or guys that have the same interests as you have and hang out with them. I prefer early 20s girls myself also as i look about 24/25 still. To solve my problem i started promoting nightclubs in NYC again and this helped tremendously.

    While that might not be an option for you I would highly again suggest finding wings that have a same interests as you and go from there.
    "No matter how hot or how desirable a woman is to you, she is still *just a girl*. If you treat all women equally, you aren't likely to get flustered or nervous around girls you really like, they're just girls" - My number 1 rule.

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    I'm in my early thirties and like the company of a young woman too.. In my situation dealing with them I don't really think there is any pretense of having much in common with them personally or socially.. So yeah, it's hard for me to imagine a cat in his early thirties in any type of social circle at all with girls of that age, which is fine. There is nothing wrong with just approaching them, either after they show IOI's (eye contact in particular), or just opening them situationally to gauge their initial interest. As for any type of relationship with them, I don't know if it's possible to have a concrete one, which again is fine if your just looking to get in their pants.. Although there are some guys on this board, like 0210 I believe who have spoke about meeting exceptionally mature and down to earth ones

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    @new2town, you're right that when I go for HB's in their early 20's and late teens, they're exceptionally mature more often than not. The dynamic and strategy is completely different than going for party girls of the same age.

    @Pdal931, what really sticks out is this:

    Quote Originally Posted by Pdal931
    I wouldnt mind to have a life like that at all, but I just dont have it...
    Even disregarding game, you seem dissatisfied with your lifestyle and social circle.

    The two questions you need to ask yourself are:
    1. What kinds of people do you want to be surrounded by?
    2. What type of lifestyle do you actually want?
    In answering these questions, try to focus on what you really want. It's easy to think in terms of which people and activities will help you get with early 20's HB's. But try not to; that's not the point of this exercise.

    You're far from alone in having friends get married before you do. It puts you and your friends at different stages in life. So while your married friends will hopefully be part of your life to some extent, it's OK to add new friends who are at the same stage in life as yourself to the mix.

    When you've built a lifestyle and social circle that are right for you, this will help with game. This is true in general, not just when trying to sarge early 20's HB's.

    Also, you have to walk a fine line. You don't want to completely act like someone in their early 20's. At the same time, you want HB's in their early 20's to find your lifestyle interesting.

    If you still want to party, there are many places you can do it that are open to a wide age range. That way, you won't be the only guy over 30 in a room full of university-age people.

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    Even disregarding game, you seem dissatisfied with your lifestyle and social circle
    Yes, Im definetely dissastified about it, does that linked product cover that? It's stupid, because my father became widow at 60 and he put back his social life in one year with women, and new friends for going to dance to places of his age, and I cant get the lifestyle and socialcircle I want being 31

    Quote Originally Posted by 0210 View Post
    @new2town, If you still want to party, there are many places you can do it that are open to a wide age range. That way, you won't be the only guy over 30 in a room full of university-age people..
    Bingo, you hit one of the problems. Another of the reasons it's not being easy it's because I live in a 100,000 inhabitants city. I live in Argentina by the way, though I dont think that makes the difference.

    I guess this is out of the "universal rules of the game" scope, but you have usually open 1 or 2 clubs and 3 or 4 bars. The people who runs the night are always the same, but people gets tired of the same places and the average open and close lifecycle of a club here it's 1 month. Yes, they open, they last a month, and they close, and they move to something "new". You can go to some nearby city clubs to (3 or 4) but the girls there arent that hot like the ones here. And it's all the time a mutating enviroment, you get a club with mixed age people and that's great, it isnt hard to go alone to a place like that because between 3,000 to 4,000 persons nobody gives a damn about what other people does, but suddenly it closes and your options are pubs with university-age students or others pubs with older people, and going out to pubs with 300-400 persons alone, and if they are all almost out of your age range it isnt easy at all. I guess I was making wishful thinking by expecting some hardcore tactics for situations like those, but are there?

    Greetings

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    Oh, on a side note, a couple of positive things I've found by going into early 20 enviroments if you are older are,

    1) If there are hot girls of your age they are desesperated for your validation
    2) If some young girls see you flirting with older girls, it would seem they get more attracted to you than if they see you flirting with girls of their same age

    Thanks for the tips btw

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    A fair question. If you want to date hot party girls in the early 20s, yea, you gonna have to be in that scene. Coz that's all they care about. It's like cheerleaders dating football players. It's their world. However, if you want to date other types of young girls, then you have more options. There are definitely a lot of super cool, independent young girls who will date old man disregarding their peer approval.

    The only way I see it is to promote clubs, or go to clubs a lot and befriend the staff, be the life of the party, maybe even throw after parties inviting the staff and the girls.

    Good luck. Let us know if you figure it out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pdal931
    ...does that linked product cover that...
    I didn't add the link to the Social Circle Mastery product. The forum software automatically links the words "social circle" to that product. Nor have I personally purchased that product. However, I've purchased other Love Systems e-books and have found them to be excellent.

    You could ask Love Systems if any of their e-books discuss improving your lifestyle and social circle in general.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pdal931
    Another of the reasons it's not being easy it's because I live in a 100,000 inhabitants city.
    You're right that this doesn't help. If none of the night game venues in your area work for you, could you try day game? Also, is it feasible for you to go to larger cities to game?

    Quote Originally Posted by Pdal931
    I live in Argentina by the way, though I dont think that makes the difference.
    Actually, it helps you quite a bit. I live in the United States but spent over three months in Argentina. Dating younger women is much more common in Argentina than in the United States. It also helps that there are gorgeous women everywhere you look in Argentina.

    Another reason why it might matter: Most of the people who post here are in Anglophone countries. The culture in Argentina is different enough from that of the USA and other Anglophone countries that you may need to make minor adjustments to account for these differences.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pdal931
    1) If there are hot girls of your age they are desesperated for your validation
    2) If some young girls see you flirting with older girls, it would seem they get more attracted to you than if they see you flirting with girls of their same age
    1) and 2) go hand in hand. If you flirt with HB's close to your age and they seem interested, this gives you Pre-Selection. That makes you more desirable to other HB's who are roughly as attractive as the ones who showed interest.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pdal931
    Thanks for the tips btw
    Glad I could help!

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    There are some cities near mine, Santa Fe 500,000 inhabitants at 105 minutes and Rosario 1,000,000 at 3 hours in car. I lived in Santa Fe 3 years and a half when I was 18-21, and it's cool because many university students from many cities go there. But the downside it's if you get a girl there, you have to waste 3 hours and a half each day you want to see her there (105 minutes to go, 105 minutes to return) add to that the 8 or 9 hours you work a day, and how much time do you have left?

    Something that's constantly changing in my mind is the idea if I should care about being seing in university age pubs or not. I mean, my city is a small city in that sense, and somebody could think being seen in a place like that could affect my value somehow permanently in front of some girls' eyes, but sometimes I come to the conclusion that the only girls who would actually care are those who wouldnt naturally feel attracted to me anyway, or if they dont like me they wouldnt even remember me after a day, and that by going there I have nothing to lose but to win. It still is not completely clear though. I think I stilll have the feeling that the girls I can attract are in a 3 years age range like when I was younger, and that I didnt assimilate yet that girls from 18 to 34 years can get attracted to me and that the "frame of abundancy" is more likely to be true now than when I was younger even if I live in a small city.

    In some senses it's very weird. There's this world where you are with guys of your age in some venues and they are like , hey when are you going to marry? and I am like UH?? and they are like, yes, it's time, dont you realize it?? and I am like "I dont care" and there is this other world where you get approachs in gyms, streets, malls, when running etc. by younger girls and I am "this is what I want" and then you go out to clubs because girls in the day venues dont appear regulary, and even if you have some temporary success with these girls in clubs, you dont find a single guy of your age or close to get a social circle to be in a life close to those girls in a daily basis, and you are like, how do I pull this into my life? And when you go to talk with your same age friends about this, it's like you are talking about a paralel universe they dont think it exists. To be honest, I was very surprised too to see girls more than 10 years younger than me to be interested in me when it started to happen, and if there is a way to handle this I would go for it even if I have to buy every single pua product that's out in internet.

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    not to get too off topic, but as 0210 suggested I wonder how the age issue plays out in Argentina as opposed to the US. I have always heard that the women of Cono Sur (Argentina/Uruguay) are some of the best in the world. I always planned to visit back when the US dollar had a strong parity to the Argentine Peso earlier this century. 0210, how are those plans you have of traveling overseas at some point? I have some methods I'm looking at now (teaching english second language, interest off inheritance etc)

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