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    Getting out of comfort

    I met this girl at work on Tuesday. Yesterday we went out together and I am got into comfort pretty quickly IMO (lots of kino, she was telling me personal stuff, sexual tension, teasing, calling me babe, etc.)

    On the way home we were talking about something and all of a sudden she says to me "we can't hook up, we just met and we work together" to which I responded "don't worry, I only like blondes" and then proceeded with the conversation. She also gave me another test by asking me for my number, and I hesitated to give it to her she said "fine nevermind, you hesitated", which I ignored and continued with a new topic. I can tell thick chick is used to guys falling all over her.

    She then said she wanted to come see my place, but I think I fucked it up and said "yeah come over" which I think she took as come stay for a long time. She ended up going home, but texted me later saying she thought I was really cool and she said she wanted to hang out with weekend, ended with "<3 you!"

    Now I took her saying we weren't going to hook up as a test to see what I would do just like when she didn't want my number anymore. Why would she be thinking about hooking up when we were talking about something completely different unless she wanted to or was atleast considering it?

    My question is what's your opinion on what she said and do I now build more comfort, or try to escalate into seduction? It hasn't been that long and she is obviously concerned about seeming too easy...



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    Quote Originally Posted by Muchaco View Post
    I met this girl at work on Tuesday. Yesterday we went out together and I am got into comfort pretty quickly IMO (lots of kino, she was telling me personal stuff, sexual tension, teasing, calling me babe, etc.)

    On the way home we were talking about something and all of a sudden she says to me "we can't hook up, we just met and we work together"
    Yeah, this is very fast for somebody you work with. She's verbalizing this so you can handle it. NBD.
    to which I responded "don't worry, I only like blondes"
    Ha!
    She also gave me another test by asking me for my number, and I hesitated to give it to her she said "fine nevermind, you hesitated", which I ignored and continued with a new topic. I can tell thick chick is used to guys falling all over her.
    That probably wasn't a test. Hesitating on your part was probably interpreted as an IOD. If you're worried about it being a test, compliance test first, "Give me your phone." She gives it, you enter your number.

    She then said she wanted to come see my place, but I think I fucked it up and said "yeah come over" which I think she took as come stay for a long time.
    Think about your logistics. Part of what you should be thinking about is the sort of time frame you're looking to close. Either way, use an FTC here.
    Why would she be thinking about hooking up when we were talking about something completely different unless she wanted to or was atleast considering it?
    Correct. "We can't hook up" = "I want to hook up." Now it may also mean, "But it's too soon," or it could mean, "I'm easily persuaded." But she's very attracted and likes you.
    My question is what's your opinion on what she said and do I now build more comfort, or try to escalate into seduction? It hasn't been that long and she is obviously concerned about seeming too easy...
    Everything is fine. You can probably hook up this weekend.
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    What I personally do in these situations is ignore pretty much everything she says and shut her entire frame down. Vapor is saying I think that this girl is trying to put up a positive frame into the situation that she is manipulating you into hooking up with her in her way and that you should accommodate her, ie not get emotional over the fast hook up she is thinking about. He says that's good and roll with it, but i think it's easier to just do everything one way and when girls start doing their weird shit test dance to change you, that's when you change them instead.

    Harder simpler more attractive and such. Vapor I bet is spot on tho here.
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