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    Flaking on Women; effective?

    I remember seeing some posts on here about women flaking all the time, I used the search to see if I could get some answers but I couldn't. So here goes.

    I made plans with an HB9, I told her were hanging out wednesday (tomorrow night), specific things were planned, shes really into it..etc.

    I read some posts that flaking can be very effective, but they can also backfire. I was curious, if I told her today that 'somethings come up, cant hangout tomorrow night'...

    would I then:
    a) not talk to her for a couple days, and then continue on with making plans in a week or so?

    b) mention that I cant get together with her tomorrow, but make plans right then & there for another specific date?

    c) not flake at all?



    Im sure most of you have had women flake on you at one point or another, so I'm interested in seeing some suggestions. thanks.



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    If you have plans, you have plans. If you don't then you don't. I can't really see how being a flake would build attraction. We know attraction wanes without proximity, the reason long distance relationships don't work. You could use it as punishment for bad behavior - I think most of us just DHV and show pre-selection by subtly indicating that we're busy people whose time is valuable, and that she is lucky to be spending some of her time with you.

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    true.

    i also forgot to mention she has flaked on me once already, so would I use this as a sort of punishment as you stated?

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    Why would you flake on her if she wants to hang out? If she flakes on you you use the Brad P double flake reversal techinque. It is in his book on dating.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fader View Post
    If she flakes on you you use the Brad P double flake reversal techinque. It is in his book on dating.
    Even better, it's posted in BradP's classical writings section.
    http://www.theattractionforums.com/f...ad.php?t=67488

    Enjoy.

    Not making yourself "too available" is effective in communicating non-neediness. Making plans and then cancelling on her gives her bad emotions. Have you ever been flaked on? Does it feel good? How does that help you?

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    why make your life harder than it has to
    Cancelling plans last minute is one of the worst things to do to someone
    its not 'effective' its fucking terrible

    why would you do this?
    how would you feel?

    If you want to seem busy, then share all the things you're doing with her by telling her stories and shit about your life, and telling her you're busy on days you really are. Dont just up and cancel for no reason

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    Quote Originally Posted by jarryd09 View Post
    true.

    i also forgot to mention she has flaked on me once already, so would I use this as a sort of punishment as you stated?
    If you actually had to cancel and depending on your past interactions with her (how into you, how much she wants to be with you) hinting at the fact that there may be competition around might make her think about you a little...but thatís totally dependent on the girl.

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    Even better, it's posted in BradP's classical writings section.
    http://www.theattractionforums.com/f...ad.php?t=67488

    Enjoy.


    What a gem of advice. Genius.

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    Brad P's double flake system is very similar to Ron Louis and Copland's book:how to succeed with women

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    Quote Originally Posted by miaddict View Post
    Even better, it's posted in BradP's classical writings section.
    http://www.theattractionforums.com/f...ad.php?t=67488

    Enjoy.

    Not making yourself "too available" is effective in communicating non-neediness. Making plans and then cancelling on her gives her bad emotions. Have you ever been flaked on? Does it feel good? How does that help you?
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