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So a while back I f-closed a...well...I'd say a HB6. Cute, but ...
DHV or DLV?
So a while back I f-closed a...well...I'd say a HB6. Cute, but a little chubby. Nothing major though. But anyway, she told a HB8 and then the HB8 told my coworker HB8. Neither HB8 brought it up to me, and I didn't know they had any knowledge of it. A month later (today) I f-closed her again (cuz the opportunity was just kinda there, you know) and she finally tells me she told the HB8 about our last sexual encounter, and thus my coworker found out. I'm not sure if she's going to tell them again, but I framed it like I held trust as a very important thing, so I don't think so.
Anyway, my question is this: If she told the two HB8's about our second encounter, do these closes DHV or DLV me? They are both friends with my HB6, but she's less attractive than them, and they know I'm not interested in her for a relationship. They also know that the HB6 understands that I don't want to date her. So does fucking her make me seem shallow and desperate, or just a sexual person? I'm guessing it's just dependent on how I frame it if they confront me with it, but I'm not positive.
I think it gives you a little social proof, but I think it could go either way. If it went bad for her, then she probably told that to her friends, resulting in lower value for you, but if it went well, it could be a DHV if you use it right.
The past, the present, and the future are all waves in the ocean. Forever there, and unchangeable.
imo, it really depends on the HB6. there are multiple reasons to why she might fuck and tell. maybe she doesn't get laid alot, so she does it as validation. maybe you are amazing in bed, and she had to share it with everybody. maybe her and her girlfriends are really close and share everything with each other.
for all they know, an HB6 might be all you can get ya know. either way, you just gotta reframe it to benefit you...or better yet, ignore it/act like it wasn't a big deal and change the subject.
Originally Posted by Pony Boy
Oh yeah! Haha, let's hope it's that one! But arright, proper framing it is! Thanks guys!
fucking amazing! same situation i'm in.
girl came along, hooked up wit her. (#1)
met her friends, hooked up with one of her friends. (#2)
2 knows i hooked up with 1 before. 1 doesn't know i hooked up with 2.
wanna hear something fucking amazing? i just learned this, but 1's great grandfather started antheiser bush! he started the beer company!!!!!
however he sold it, but apparently 1's mother still has money from it. she kinda works, but travels a lot. i just learned this, and am working on a good story for it!
Hey man don't worry about it. Keep a strong sense of self and identity and you'll be fine.
I've had a few of those but you know if I go out with a less attractive woman (maybe overweight, or whatever) I'll make sure they look really good and that I treat them really well and give them incredible sex. When I'm out it doesnt matter - women see you treating a woman really well and they long for it and then they hear about you being very passionate and sexual and they become very curious. When I'm with a woman and we're at a bar for instance and I'm kissing her cheek and smiling while doing it and have my arm around her waist and flirting and laughing women see it and wonder why they dont have that with their man. Trust me on that.