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Hey guys, I met up this chick (HB 7) who was ...
Long Distance Boyfriend destroyer
Hey guys, I met up this chick (HB 7) who was selling me a book yesterday and we ended up talking for about a straight hour or so. I was negging her, dhv'ing by telling her stories and making sure to keep her laughing. At one point she said that she had never laughed as much from just meeting someone the first time and later on she went into her family background then looked at me and said she couldn't believe she was already telling me that stuff. In the middle her bf called her up. They've been together for about 8 months but its long distance. I told her how I don't think long distance works b/c someone might cheat or if you ever need the other person they might be busy and not be able to talk, etc. I invited her to my place on Saturday and she said she would stop by after I said I would call her. Now does anyone know how to progress this by using a bf destroyer technique? I haven't found where it is or read anything for that. Let me know pimps and keep up the gaming.
Think this was too blatant.. Would've been better if you explained how long distance doesn't work FOR YOU because of reason [x] and [y] and whatnot, and she'll automatically adapt it to her own situation.
I told her how I don't think long distance works b/c someone might cheat or if you ever need the other person they might be busy and not be able to talk, etc
That probably would have been a lil better. I'm planning on trying to see her on Saturday at some point (hopefully) and probably dhv with a few routines (three mice is one I had in mind). Any ideas that might be more specific to this type of situation?
Originally Posted by skld
Originally Posted by skld
Not talk about her boyfriend AT ALL. You said it yourself, she was laughing and couldnt believe it herself. Keep gaming, you have her.
That sounds good. She sent me a couple of texts and in one she said that instead of me paying her for dancing lessons (it was an ongoing joke) we could use that money to go to a club but that that would be considered flirting which she wasn't doing and then she put a smiley face at the end of it....my question now is how do I escalate and get rid of any resistance that probably will show up? My game isn't that tight yet so I could really use the help guys.
the only difference between a girl with a boyfriend and one without is extra resistance. besically any girl with a boyfriend WILL cheat on him if you can offer her more than she has now, which is easier in your case because she's in a LDR. basically the best thing you can do is actively ignore her. take a long time before you respond to her texts. if she texts you during the day, wait until the night time when your out with your buddies partying and then give her a call and answer whatever she asked you in her text. the important thing here is to never apologize when you call her.
WRONG: "hey sorry i didn't get back to you sooner but i was busy. but yea i think we should definately hit up that club some time."
RIGHT: "hey, i'm kinda busy this weekend but i'll definately take you out to that club next weekend."
if you've played the game right until now then she should (metaphorically) chase after you when you turn your back on her. since you said your sort of a novice make sure you read up on neg theory because this will be fairly important in attracting a hot girl who has a boyfriend. the only other tip i can give you is act like her boyfriend doesn't exist (this doesn't mean you can get all handsy with her). basically NEVER bring him up in conversation. if she starts to talk about him, change the subject. if you do end up going out to a party or club and she takes a call from him, leave her ass and go talk to the hottest girl you see. basically just get out of sight and make her come find you.
I don't think I've played everything right b/c she doesn't seem to call me or anything unless I initiate it first....I have been playing it a little non-chalant so far, kinda similar to your example up there and I know a little on neg theory...I think my problem is upping the stakes right now and trying to make an emotional connection with her so she has good reason to actually chase me...we went for coffee last thursday and we talked for a little bit with some jokes here and there but I felt it seemed to normal so I told her to come with me to the poster shop to figure out what possible posters I should buy for my room...it was good since she is an art history major and she got into some of the pics a little bit...I tried making fun of her here and there (I don't remember specifically) but had to rush off to class....I know there's still hope I just need guidance....
Maybe because she has a boyfriend and definetely doesn't want to feel responsible if anything happens?
You definetely need to assume most of the responsability, because she doesn't want the emotional guilt of feeling that it was her that actively chased you and thus, the responsible party for cheating on her boyfriend.
Do you understand? Girls are emotional beings that think emotionally instead of logically, because logically, off course it was her fault for cheating, but if she can say to herself: "It wasn't my fault, he was the one that made all the moves..." then she'll cheat on him in a heartbeat.
Hope this helps.
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I think that actually makes sense to me...basically you're saying that I should keep chasing her and making all the "right" moves that I can in order to make her relax and go with it so that in her mind I'm the one telling her to do all these things and since it isn't her decision, per say, then it also can't be her fault. Thats good stuff....I was just going to wait around but now I know that I need to text/call her up some more with interesting material to keep her interested and maybe even meet up with her again...any idea for "dates" that can be considered innocent for her but with a game plan for me on a college campus??
This may not apply,but try to find a way to the roof of your schools tallest buildings. At night its a beautiful view. Maybe bring it up spontaneously: " hey lets try to get on the roof" and turn it into an adventure .