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First I want to preface that I ...
Advise me because this chick makes no sense
First I want to preface that I usually just observe as I'm still trying to catch up even months down the road, but now I can't hold back - and I need some smart opinions.
I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks - we go to different schools about an hour away from each other and we hung out last weekend. In fact I stayed over 2 nights in a row - I mean I've gone through the entire M3 model with this girl, so I thought I was in the clear - I mean she said it was a "perfect weekend"....then Sunday came.
Sunday (not today - 1 week ago) comes and I left her place for my own school and that night she tells me she's got shit to do this weekend (she was supposed to come to my place for the weekend) so it's no big deal...until she abruptly closes the conversation. Then the rest of the night she basically stops talking to me. I called her out on this because I know her well enough - so I just asked open-ended if something (not bringing up us) happened at all and at first she said "it's nothing." But cmon, we know how women are when they say "it's nothing"...before hand she would leave me messages and see how I was doing during the day, and this entire week she's barely said a thing to me - so "nothing" turns into her thinking "I talk to you WAAAY too much" and "I just wasn't feeling the click this weekend." So rather than be clingy and whiny, I gave her space and basically haven't spoken to her for more than 10 minutes this week...but that doesn't mean I haven't wondered how the fuck, over the course of a week where we have barely interacted, that I have gone from being this amazing lover who gave her the "perfect weekend" to a guy who just isn't "feeling the click." and I know it's AFC to over-analyze and pine over a girl (especially seeing as how she still wants to see me when we get back from Thanksgiving break)...but I've been seeing her for like 3 weeks and I genuinely like her as a person, and even though she still wants to hang out I really want to regain this loss of interest.
Any ideas as to what made her so callous and how I can correct it beyond this point?
so you've fucked her?
Originally Posted by theLovechild
maybe she didn't feel like talking, but i think i can see what;s happening.
Sunday (not today - 1 week ago) comes and I left her place for my own school and that night she tells me she's got shit to do this weekend (she was supposed to come to my place for the weekend) so it's no big deal...until she abruptly closes the conversation.
so if you fucked her, then you may have gotten buyer's remorse (basically skipped comfort, which i know is basically impossible if you stayed over at her house for 2 straight days, but you never know). She may have seen you as merely a fling, something fun to tell her friends about.
sHe may not have the same feelings for you as you for her.
She may have a boyfriend that you're not aware of and doesn't want to break up with him, even though she's already fucked you.
SHe's weird and you shouldn't be focusing all your attention on a single girl, but exploring your options.
Originally Posted by Bagser
Originally Posted by bad_religion_au
Libertine is right- looks like buyers remorse
But chances are, you are over-analyzing things, shes still into you, but now that you are three weeks in, she doesnt feel like she has to show as much interest as before. I wouldnt worry about it...give it a few days
We chase that which retreats from us.
You might just be paying her too much attention. Give her the gift of missing you (which you've been doing, right on). Don't fall into her frame that things aren't going well, game as usual. Easy ways to get that click back: everything you did in A2. I suggest when you do finally talk to her tell her about all the fun shit you've been doing, you can even subtly drop in a girls name, and for sure play on jealousy, that shit is sooo powerful. She'll start feeling that "click" right away.
Also, another piece of advice, date a lot of girls until you just wanna be with one. You won't get problems like these.