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I posted my ...
I need some advice please! How would an alpha handle this situation?
I posted my issue yesterday and got some responses then woke up this morning to find that my thread had disappeared due to some error in the forums database! (I think some other recent threads disappeared too).
I asked a HB10 out twice about two month ago, she's from my work.. and I got rejected twice, it was subtle rejection i.e. she flaked and didn't answer my calls.. etc. so I moved on to game other girls.
I ignored her for about two month (no contact), she texted me twice during this period and I replied after 24 hours or gave her really short answers. Then I worked with her about two weeks ago and I had a hickey on my neck, she got jealous and was all over me.. she was very playful and she told me that I am a slut and that she hates hickies and I look like a skank with a hickey.. etc. And she complimented me on my new haircut 3 times this shift.. she initiated kino as well..
I fully ignored her that night, I pretty much rejected her, I would walk way while she's speaking or look in the opposite direction, not smiling, and wasn't giving her attention in anyway.. I even left without kissing her good bye (I usually give her a kiss on the cheek).
To my surprise I got a distant friend from work calling me yesterday to tell me that he heard that I tried to ask her out twice!! I was like wtf, so she went around and told people that I tried to ask her out or may be she only told one person that spread the story around. Why would she do this?! Why?? My reputation is looking very bad in the work's social circle now! Is this a DLV? coz I know that there are other girls at work that are interested in me, not as good looking as her but I wouldn't mind them, and I think it's definitely a DLV hearing something like that about me..
How do I act about it? Should I ever bring it up with the HB10? I am working with her in 24 hours! What would an alpha do? How can I react in a way that shows that I am a dominant mother fucker and not some weakling?
I used to like this girl and might even still like her. But don't know what to do, I think I have a chance to DHV by acting dominant about this situation! but her behaviour is still kind of unacceptable to me too, I seem to have the upper hand and don't want to lose it.
Should I start giving her attention? should I start again from the attraction phase? Or keep ignoring and making her work harder for my attention? How do you guys guess she'll be reacting to me tomorrow? hot? cold?
sorry for the long post guys and thanks for your help
I remember this, lol.
If confronted about you asking her out, just tell them the truth. You didn't ask her out, she made it up. And if she wants to make up ways for her to ask you out, she should just ask you out herself. Basically, grabbing the problem by the horns. When you tell them the truth, shrug your shoulders as if you dont care, and say something similar to "I didnt ask her out. She made it up, I dont really talk to her that much. If she wants to ask me out on a date, she should just ask me herself, instead of making up rumors." And stick to that story.
And if she is not to your standards atm, just keep ignoring her. If she texts you, ignore the text completely. Dont reply. Just delete it asap, so you are not tempted to reply back.
If she keeps texting you, reply to one message, and then say "if you wanna talk about random stuff, just call me", and if she calls you, just talk about random stuff. I prefer calling over texting. Just have some dhv stories about yourself to tell, or make stuff up or whatever.
in my opinion, women are quite subtle about things. she probably made up the story of you asking her out, as a way of she wants you to ask her out, but isnt brave enough to do it herself. kind of like in middle school or highschool when a chick does the same thing... lol
Also, when you went that 2 months of ignoring her, you should of ignored her texts completely too, and deleted her number. So if she texted you, you could reply with "who is this?" lmao
The truth is that I actually asked her out, but it's ok I can lie, or I can just say "Is she still speaking about me?" reframing the situation as if she's the one that is obsessed with me and has been speaking about me to everyone.. etc. But I doubt anyone would have the balls opening a topic like this with me! It still doesn't make sense why would she go tell people that I asked her out? ahhh.. I am furious.. bitches are stupid!
Originally Posted by the vulture
Assuming I want her just for sex/hook up, where do I start from? attraction? negs? teasing? I'll try to build up enough attraction till she asks me to hang out, but I am never going to ask her out again, coz if things went wrong again she'll walk around and say that I asked her out 3 times blah blah...
Also I can't delete her number for work related purposes..
dont spread rumors, dont lie, dont tell people what she said is a lie or she got it mixed up. dont bring it up.. this shouldn't be a big deal to you, nothing should, it happens, rub it off your shoulder.. you can look at it two ways... she talked about you outside of work obv, for other people to know what happen... 1, she was thinking about you and if shes stupid, i dont know, she probably thought it was cute.. 2, shes making fun of you and is just a cunt bitch and needs to watch that ring movie so in 7 days she will be a hb -10.
as far as your reputation... you asked a girl out and she said no... if people are judging you because of that.. god help them, they need to get laid.. and not by animals, real girls...
when they should be saying good job.. you have balls to ask out the hb10.
think of it like this.. who cares what other people think... you had the balls to ask her out... and you talk to her and get compliments.. if girls know that she rejected you i dont see how it can be a bad thing.. you showed you had the confidence to ask a hb10 out.. i think other girls would think "oh i want him to ask me out".. ya know.. has anyone else asked her out ? or are they afc and talk among each others like OH!!! OH MY GOD!! shes so FUCKING HOT!!! i jerk off thinking about her when i go home.. most likely.. so fuck them..
dude, its one hb10 there are BILLIONS of girls out there... if you think shit went sour at work.. then just go there to work and get money and do what you gotta do outside of work. they are "work friends"
Thanks for your help motings.. yeah I'll just ignore it. It would be impossible to know why she told others that I asked her out. She's probably trying to piss me off coz I 've been acting cold to her.. and kinda of rejected, she's probably not used to that! And yes all the other guys are AFCs they just walk around showing their friends her bikini photos that are on Facebook and just think that she's very hot and stuff!
Originally Posted by motings
Any advises for getting her in the sac? I am working with her today and I'll test the waters first.. if she's still coming hard on me and touching and fishing for my attention, What should I do? keep ignoring her? or start again on attraction? but if she ignored me then without a need to mention I'll definitely ignore her harder!
a couple of questions first.
how old is she?
what is her position at your work?
and where do you work?
and what is your position?
how old is she? 19
Originally Posted by motings
what is her position at your work? shop girl
and where do you work? Cloth shop
and what is your position? Store person (shop boy) I've got more experience than her in the job so I am kinda of her boss (very indirectly)
okay, you don't have to ignore her. that just makes it awkward as fuck at work. if shes touching you and wants attention from you, be cocky funny. you can be a bit of an asshole, shes a hb10, but make sure its the play full asshole. e.g i use these at my work... also clothing store. if you see her drop something or knock something over. say, SEE! this is why we cant have nice things.... pick up something hideous! say oh, this would look great on you.... you have something on your eyelash/noes/face... if you see her folding something say i think you need to learn how to fold clothes again.. lol that sucks, i can grab the folding board for you.. dont be to harsh cause shes still 19, shes not like a 25 year old hb10 with experience shes still learning... remember when she told ppl she rejected you.. it dont phase you. its life neways.. what ever happened is no big deal. make it seem like you moved on from your crush on her or whatever you too had, make it seem like you have something AMAZING going for you right now.. and your in a great mood, and shes not so much of a big deal anymore. you can still be flirtatious.. it makes work fun.. better when you got a hb10 too... walk into your work like you just got the best blow job before you got there..
after all girls want what they cant get.
they want it more when its something they could have had but didn't.
i dont like this reply....
Originally Posted by motings
what i would do is get other hb 10s ur gaming to come into the job when ur working with her ... use jealousy ... get said hb 10's laughing and kenoing u ...
i would wait for her to initiate something. she rejected twice already so there's no point for you to initiate
What do you mean by "initiating"? As in initiating: flirting, compliments, kino, teasing? then Yes she has been initiating all that with me by herself recently and I've been ignoring and rejecting her! or do you mean initiating as in her asking me to hang out sometime? since I have already asked her to hang out twice and she flaked (subtle rejection) it wouldn't be a good idea to ask again.. she has never asked me to hang out, I assume HB10s have big egos coz of their looks so I don't even know if that will ever happen.
Originally Posted by schoolboy
Jealousy does work wonders, she saw a hickey on my neck before and she got jealous and was fishing for my attention hard that night.. getting HB10s to come to work will be hard, but I'll try to induce jealousy through other ways.. like hickeys, Facebook, may be spraying a women's perfume on my shirt's collar or something (<--- read this somewhere on this forums)! and I'll leave the rest to her imagination, I heard that by leaving her to imagine.. she'll always assume a worst case scenario, like may be I've slept with another girl or something.
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