Critique how I flirt, oneitus prevention, What do i do next to further things along?
New to the community! Glad there's a forum for this 18-21 range, as I'm in need of some critiquing and advice.
To make a long story short, I took my first year of college completely online; NO GIRLS AROUND. I mainly did this because I had some social anxiety, but went to a councilor, got that cleared up for the most part and have been really (trying) to put myself out there.
So far, I've talked to a few girls to get started, just the regular, hey or whats up, bla bla bla shit about homework, grades, etc... when I see them or when they come into class, and I'll usually arrive early and they'll sit around me, which makes me feel great. (also this is a community college, so no dorms )
But Ive grown fond of one girl, and started flirting with her, shes kind of a nerd, so when class got boring once i made her play hangman, it spelled out "Nice hipster glasses dork" (she wears those black rimmed glasses.. y'know, hipster glasses.) I've also done a bit of Kino, like lightly pulling on her scarf and saying why are you dressing for winter when its 90 degrees out you dumbo, all with a good laugh from her, and she keeps coming back for more by sitting near me.(at least I think so!) whenever she asks a question in class i call her needy, annoying, gross etc... Is that "good" flirting? or could they just be being nice? What about compliments though, they're a strong component in flirting, how can i use them effectively? Compliment, or Neg? I think I speak for everyone here that no one wants to be slung into the friend zone for over-doing compliments.
The problem is since my balls have been blue for so damn long, It's so easy to latch onto one girl and think oh god we're gonna get married have sex everyday and ride into the sunshine with shit eating grins, but obviously this is irrational. I fell for oneitus many times in high school, is the cure for one-itus just keeping yourself open and flirting with many girls at once?
After all that, How can i progress further with these women? Should i just keep up on the teasing, kino and little games to keep her occupied? (need help on compliment use!)
Is asking if they want to hang out sometime/asking for their phone number what I should be doing now? If I get denied, whats next?
Let me know, I've been a lurker on this forum since High School and finally have the courage to get some real help and keep my life moving.
Thanks to all of you in advance