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- 02-13-2011, 05:01 AM #1
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I'm relatively new to all of this stuff, and I'm so grateful all these resources exist.
So before all of this seduction stuff, I was already decent with generating attraction with women I think. I come from a very conservative family, so this whole business of "closing" never really crossed my mind (whether it be sexually or just to even actively seek girlfriends). I've had 2 girlfriends (one for 6months, one for 3 years) and they did 90% of the chasing. I know it's nothing to brag about, but I literally took zero (conscious) initiative with these girls, and I'd rank them a 7.
Anyway, the reason I started looking into all this seduction stuff is because I just got to college and well, everything changed. I no longer had the social circle game, etc. etc, and I had no idea HOW to generate attraction.
As I began to read, I realized all the things I had been doing right and the things I've been doing wrong. The more "aha's" I got though, the more insecure I felt. I felt like I wasn't enough. I began to feel extremely self conscious. I don't think I've ever felt more awkward/self conscious around others in my life. Instead of helping my game, I feel like it's caused me to close up, analyze everything.
So I took a break, and as I began to regain my confidence, I began to feel more comfortable again. But I wasn't getting the results I wanted. I feel like I need to learn more, but am afraid to feel self conscious again (like taking 1 step forward, 2 steps back)
So my question is: I want to know how you guys approach learning new material. What do you focus on when interacting with others after you read something you want to try out? How do you keep yourselves from "freezing up" and feeling self conscious.
Any input would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
- 02-14-2011, 01:39 PM #2
Nice that you had results in the past! However, don't bother you, if there is too much information to handle at the same time (I know what you mean!) then focus on one or two topics you want to be good at, in your current situation I guess this would be college game, establishing social circles and getting to know people...don't start to game right away at your college, first build up an image and make friends, later when you are accepted and people like you, you can start to game girls, but be patient which one. Furthermore, gaming in your social circle could cause problems if it doesn't go well.
There are a lot of threats about how to be the king at your new college...read them, and then act. By the way, try to be friendly and befriend yourself with the hot girls in at college, focus more on comfort/rapport than on attraction and seduction...imagine what will happen if other see you with the hottest girls at college, your value will tremendously increase...
Anyway, if i could write just one sentence I recommend you to be confident and lead, leadership is key...people will think you are a cool guy instead of thinking "why is this boy always so nervous and insecure..." it will be hard to change the first impression!
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