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    How do I not fuck this up?

    Hey guys,

    so, quick background to give you more of a situation awareness.

    I'm coming to the end of my first year at university in england. I haven't done too badly since coming here last october. I've slept with 6 girls since then and kissed a couple more. I'm very social, out 3-5 a week every week.

    So, it started at the end of march before we had a month off for easter break. I got out of the train on a saturday morning after a night out and bumped into a girl who does the same course as me on the platform, also coming back from a night out. I met this girl during fresher's week back in october and have had the odd chat with her on facebook and stuff, but she's not really in my social circle. She's gorgeous, perfect girl next door, but still outgoing and fun.

    So I offered her a lift up to campus since I had my car parked at the train station and whilst chatting to her I found out that we both live in the same country in europe. I thought she lived in france since she's french and she thought I lived in England since I'm english. And we figured out that we both play at the same golf club. So anyway, it was a short drive and we were both hungover so I dropped her off and that was that.

    Then, over the month break we started messaging eachother on facebook. She also asked my to join her on a night out since her brother was going out for his birthday and she wanted some company but since I was on holiday I couldn't make it. We also arranged to study together when we get back since we have exams.

    So now, first week back, and I'm pretty sure, that if I play my cards right I'm in there. I went to the library yesterday to study, at midnight and she was there with some other people from our course so we did the normal study session. I was a bit cocky funny, making fun of her for her little spelling mistakes and stuff like that. Also just generally being a tease and fun guy to her and all the other girls.

    We ended up, 4 of us in the end, her and her friends and guy and me. just hanging around the library and then campus doing nothing really all night. I ended up telling them about a lot of my crazy partying experiences of the year. And we ended up in a friends of hers room at 5 in the morning and all left at 6am.

    That was this morning. So now, I just want advice about how to go about it from here.

    You see, I'm quite decent with girls, when I don't actively like them, as in when the ultimate goal is not to make them my girl or something. but the second i realize, 'oh, I like this girl, it all goes to shit' so how do I best go about this without coming on too strong and scaring her off.

    Cheers for reading this and the tips in advance.


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    You see, I'm quite decent with girls, when I don't actively like them, as in when the ultimate goal is not to make them my girl or something. but the second i realize, 'oh, I like this girl, it all goes to shit'
    I think that kind of happens to everyone

    so how do I best go about this without coming on too strong and scaring her off.
    First off, don't be needy, secondly RELAX!!! she is just another woman. You said your good with them. Now i assume you have her number, and have already built some comfort(talking about where your from etc) so it should be pretty easy to get her out with you....go for a drink when and where ever you want.

    Also you mentioned that you play at the same club.....so that should make it more than easy to be like "hey how about a round" this will give you plenty of time to escalate kino, have fun and make a move. Or at the very least build more comfort if you feel you need it.
    Good Luck

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    Ok, thanks man. That's what I was thinking.

    I'm only a little in strange situation, since it's the exam period of our university. So we've been doing study groups together, with 2 of her friends and some other guys from our course. Now during these study session, i don't want to be openly trying to flirt or build comfort. But I also don't want to ask her out separately right now, since if it goes at all anyway wrong, it's an added burden on both of us with all the exam stress.

    With the golf club thing, yup that's true, but thats back at home where we live, not at university.

    Do you think it's best to just leave it until exams are finished in 3 weeks time, maybe just be the usual cocky funny self with all the girls in the revision sessions, and then maybe ask her out when everything is done. Or is that waiting to long and I'll end up in the dreaded 'friends zone'??
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