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    Waited too long......now what?

    I've been seeing this girl for months now. At first, I wasn't sure if I was ready for a relationship and she made it clear to me that she was. Eventually, as time passed by, I began to realize that it was what I wanted. I just never showed her that in the way I should have. Our relationship wasn't ideal in the least bit, we hung out mostly at night and not nearly enough. But it was clear that wasn't what she wanted in the long run, or what I did. And recently, she told me that she isn't sure she can do this anymore. She isn't sure she sees this as something that will last. Despite my constant assurances that I will change, because it took a kick in the ass and the thought of losing her for me to realize what needs to change, she remains unsure. She said right now she doesn't think she can do it. I know that I need to show her how much I care about her, but I'm just hoping at this point that she gives me the opportunity. I'm trying to give her space right now, but it is so hard to do that as the only thing I can ever think about is her. I'm willing to do whatever I can to show her what she means to me and to show her that this will work, I just hope she gives me a chance. Any suggestions?



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    any help would be appreciated.....i don't know how to handle this "space"

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    You sound dangerously close to falling into needy/clingy/AFC behavior, if you're not already there that is.

    She wants space? Well she can have it while you're gaming other girls. Don't focus too much on her.

    What exactly do you mean when you say she made it clear she wanted a relationship?

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    Quote Originally Posted by spectre trip9 View Post
    You sound dangerously close to falling into needy/clingy/AFC behavior, if you're not already there that is.

    She wants space? Well she can have it while you're gaming other girls. Don't focus too much on her.

    What exactly do you mean when you say she made it clear she wanted a relationship?


    She asked me multiple times in the past where things were going. She basically thought that we were only acting like "friends with benefits". Which isn't what I wanted but unfortunately thats what she how she felt like it was being treated and where it was going

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    Dude, this is such an old situation. I've been through it.

    Handle it this way. If she wants you, she wants you. If not, then no.

    Don't wait for her to be ready for something if it just drags on. Why would she ever make a decision if you're not forcing her to? And by force I don't mean physically. Look at this way:

    Interactions (especially with women) are like business deals. Everyone wants something out of them and both sides are trying to get the most out of them. The threat of you leaving puts her in a corner to make a decision and thats what you want. The threat of you walking away and finding a better deal somewhere else will force her to say yes, or no. Either way, you'll find out and can either do it, or move on.

    G'Luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ElCarter View Post
    Dude, this is such an old situation. I've been through it.

    Handle it this way. If she wants you, she wants you. If not, then no.

    Don't wait for her to be ready for something if it just drags on. Why would she ever make a decision if you're not forcing her to? And by force I don't mean physically. Look at this way:

    Interactions (especially with women) are like business deals. Everyone wants something out of them and both sides are trying to get the most out of them. The threat of you leaving puts her in a corner to make a decision and thats what you want. The threat of you walking away and finding a better deal somewhere else will force her to say yes, or no. Either way, you'll find out and can either do it, or move on.

    G'Luck.
    Thanks man. I'm trying, just sucks bc I know if I had just done a little bit more or said something a week or two ago when we were fine....I wouldn't be in this situation. Regrets suck

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    Quote Originally Posted by spectre trip9 View Post
    You sound dangerously close to falling into needy/clingy/AFC behavior, if you're not already there that is.
    +1

    why are you trying so desperitely to change for a girl? Not only is this un-healthy but also self-tourmenting.
    Sorry but any girl that you need to change for just isnt the right one. Even if she does take you back it will not be a healthy relationship.

    And the only reason why you want her badly now and want a relationship is because she said she doesnt want to wait around anymore and is moving on. We want what we cant have...

    You need a healthy slap of a NEXT!
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    It's simple. You don't make her 'gina tingle anymore. And clinging on to her with needy behavior is NOT the way to get her back.

    NEXT.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMPitts View Post
    It's simple. You don't make her 'gina tingle anymore.
    haahaahaha someone should quote that
    "Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is the difference between the sexes."
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    Quote Originally Posted by CMPitts View Post
    It's simple. You don't make her 'gina tingle anymore.


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